permission granted

Are you waiting for permission?

For years (and even now, if I’m honest) I waited for permission.

I needed confirmation from this person or an OK from that authority. I needed someone to say my idea was good enough, that I was on target or at least getting close.

And then it hit me.

I was waiting for reassurance that my idea would be accepted. But, by whom?

The more I thought about it, the more I realized there wasn’t a committee in the sky judging whether or not my idea was good enough. There wasn’t a single, all-knowing voice granting or denying me permission.

There wasn’t a set of guidelines that said: Yes, you are savvy enough or smart enough or worthy of this. Go get ’em tiger.

In truth, I was free to do what I wanted to do. It was OK.

I didn’t need someone else to tell me to go for it. I didn’t need someone else to do it first. I didn’t need anyone’s approval.

If something sounded good, I was free to try it. Of course, it might not work. But that isn’t the point.

The point is freedom. There was no more waiting, only ideas to mold and plans to act on.

I hereby grant you lifelong permission.

I know I’m different from most (don’t get me started!), but chances are good that you’re waiting just as I did.

You’re waiting for approval, for acceptance, for permission.

And though you don’t need any of that, I’m giving it to you just in case the message above isn’t enough to soothe your worried mind.

I grant you permission.

I grant you permission to be yourself. I grant you permission to take that brilliant idea you have and run with it. I grant you permission to live outside the norm and to hop-skip-jump to the beat of your own quirky drummer.

I grant you permission to do things you’ve never done.

I grant you permission to reach out to other people in ways you never have, pushing yourself past where it feels comfortable, but where it feels real.

I grant you permission to say what you think and to feel what you feel.

I grant you permission to stop doing what you think we want you to do. We don’t want you to do that anyway.

I grant you permission, my friend, to do, to be, and to have all the things that quiet little voice of hope whispers in your ear.

Don’t wait. Don’t linger. Make something happen.

You can do it. It’s OK.

charity, has lost its good intention

I just read an email, about a "food for all summit meeting" that is going to be held on November 30. I will not join this group because I am sick and tired of seeing people with possibly good intentions trying to help the less fortunate and in this case starving children. I admire their intentions and wish them well, but every time there is a call for help and we step up to the plate, example 911 and Haiti, the actual people never see the results of these programs. Yes the gather huge amounts of money and supplies and then the greedy people step in and take their share 90% off the top and then there are all those people that must be paid to deliver, organize. and distribute what pitiful amount is left, and who is saved, generally not one poor soul that needed desperately the aid to begin with,. Charity has become a big business and there are very few charities where by the end dollar actually gets to the person for which the charity is held.
I know there are those who say even if only a few people are saved it is a job well done, but there has to be a way that people can help others and their effort not be in vain.

thoughts for today

I seem to be running around in circles. I find something that I believe will aid my life and go whole hog and then I seem to loose momentum.I have to question my motives, when I start out I am looking forward to what will happen, and then for some reason I give up.
I honestly believe this is self sabotage, in one way or another, and perhaps I should discover why I keep doing this to my self.
To the best of my knowledge I am not a horrible nor a bad person. Yes I have done some thing wrong, but from childhood I have always felt unworthy.
this could be a part of my learning as a child that my step mother didn't want me or my brother around. And yes this woman was not a very nice person and left a lot of scars in my life. But I was a child, now I am a grandmother and still he cutting words seem to dominate my life.
How I will ever get bast this worthless, useless feeling is beyond me, and that is sad as It is taking away any Chance of advancement I try.
How do I start today with this is a whole new day, what happened yesterday or a life time ago, can not affect me. I am better than that .

great information from T2T, borrowed with thanks

1… Thoughts motivated by fear are based around an imaginary reality. We don’t know for sure that an outcome is going to happen the way our doubtful mind tells us it will, so it’s fair to assume these thoughts can’t possibly be true until we actually push through and see for ourselves. Accepting our fearful thoughts as true creates a limited consciousness, letting them pass by leads us to experience the ACTUAL truth.

2… The cure for fear is to experience the thoughts and physical sensations in that moment. This requires awareness and it is the foundation of all that is true. Resisting fear gives it more power, accept that it is nothing more than a thought and your thoughts only have as much power as you allow them to have.

3… Fear is not something we can get rid of, no more than we can get rid of love. The goal here is to accept everything in our lives completely. Don’t cringe, worry or think you are in any way weak when you feel fearful, remind yourself that it is a part of life and the sooner you learn to accept this fact, the sooner you will realize it can be controlled. Fear is not the problem…it is our reaction to fear that creates the problem.

4… Never forget that fear is meant to keep you safe. Unfortunately in this day and age it has gotten out of control. We are programmed to be fearful of everything these days through disgraceful news publications, economic crises, pollution and so on. The fact is though, you have the power to choose what to follow. Limit your exposure to bad news and replace it with the opposite, after a short time you will begin to realize your thoughts are much more positive and your actions follow in kind.

5… We never know for sure what’s going to happen from one moment to the next. Fear makes you think that something negative is going to happen when in reality we don’t know if this is true. Learn to embrace the unknown, learn to be content in the moment and ride the wave at its peak without worrying about whats around the corner or what MIGHT happen down the line. Be as present as possible and flow through life with the expectation that good things are going to happen. In fact, recognize all the good things in your life right now and give gratitude for what you have rather than wishing for the things you have not.

Life is a matter of perception…perception is a matter of mind, and you are the one who controls that.

dealing with depression

Every year around this time November through  February  I live with depression. I am suffering with it today and this year it seems twice as bad as before.
Perhaps because I was living with Jim was the reason why it wasn't so bad, I had other things to occupy my mind, and was much more busy with him.
Again I have been scouring the internet for inspirational help, and most of it says if you set your mind to it you can change any thing.
My question is if your mind is telling you every negative thing in the world how in God's name do you turn it off from all the negativity?.
I feel as if I am in a battle of wills with in my self and the dam depression is winning.
I know this will end in the spring, because it has for the past 10 years, but I don't know how to deal with it until it lifts off.I feel as if i am stuck in a cage with no doors, and all the elements are coming at me.
So do I hunker down and try to survive, do I stand against the oncoming blast and come out bruised and battered?.
I know the answer is to just keep busy, and ignore all the awful feelings, but that is what my mind tells me I can't do, so I become more angry and frustrated. and sink even lower.
I do not want to spend the next 5 months in a huge pity party, because it is no party but a prison cell.

Note to self

Borowed from the Be Well news letter

Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow~ Author Unknown

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry.

Two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is yesterday with its mistakes and cares, Its faults and blunders, Its aches and pains.

Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.

All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday.

We cannot undo a single act we performed.

We cannot erase a single word we said.

Yesterday is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow.

With its possible adversities, Its burdens, Its large promise and poor performance.

Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

Tomorrow's Sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise.

Until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This just leaves only one day . . . Today.

Any person can fight the battles of just one day.

It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity's - yesterday and tomorrow that we break down.

It is not the experience of today that drives people mad.

It is the remorse or bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.

Let us therefore live but one day at a time.

wonderful wisdom in this story

An excerpt from The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale

George Bernard Shaw said, "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them." Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about. Now, it stands to reason that a person who is thinking about a concrete and worthwhile goal is going to reach it, because that's what he's thinking about. And we become what we think about. Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety, fear and worry — his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing...he becomes nothing. How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind. Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make a decision. We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant. Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand — one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds — one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted. As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap." Remember, the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the plants — one corn, one poison. The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety, and so on. But what we plant it must return to us. You see, the human mind is the last great, unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.

every day I learn several new things that now make sense

Taught2Think: Positive thoughts for Positive results

Your success in life is 90% the result of how your brain functions. (Conscious and subconscious) A mere 10% is due to the system or career path you choose. According to Dr. Richard Restak, one of the world’s leading neuroscience researchers, over 90% of what has been learned about the human brain has occurred since 1997.Also, over 80% of what was believed to be true before 1990 has now been proven to be false.

Most of what you have been told throughout your life has held you back. Stop following the herd and come into your own. Your thoughts are either limiting you or excelling you in this moment. Take a look at your life and if there are weaknesses that you are struggling to overcome, remember, it is your thoughts that create these situations, either by your ACTIONS or your REACTIONS. If you ever utter the phrase “this is just who I am” or “it’s just how I’m built, I can’t help it” then you need to wake up and stop being a victim. If you live each day playing the cards you were dealt, then I’m sorry to tell you that’s NOT living…that’s existing and nothing more.

If you are a healthy human being capable of making your own choices then everything that’s in your life right now (good or bad) is all your own doing. Stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for your life. If you want to do something…just do it regardless of anyone or anything outside of you. Life is not a gamble, it is predictable to the point of the choices you make, and the first place to start is by choosing your thoughts correctly

borowed and grateful for wisdom from T2T

Taught2Think: Positive thoughts for Positive results

As a wise man once said “nobody is you-er than you” so this is something to keep in mind. Everyone Else’s opinion of you is nothing more than an interpretation in their mind based on all the beliefs, judgments and programs that person has had to deal with throughout their lives. Nothing they could possibly say or do can hurt you or make you angry, sad or whatever else, that’s all “you” and your reaction is simply based around “your” interpretation and nothing more.




Taught2Think: Positive thoughts for Positive results

Your mind will fight you every step of the way if you try to make big changes in your life all at once. Think about this for a moment.


'Slight shifts create seismic differences over time'


The law of accumulation is incredibly powerful.

In other words, your ability to reach your goal faster and easier is compounded with each step, no matter how small