it was called lost memories

Yesterday, I read a blog by a person who was explaining how we become who we are and lost childhood memories can have a big influence. She went on to list 9 statements that we may have heard as a child, and possibly have forgotten.They were the following:
1 You are good.
2 You are wanted.
3 You are loved for your self.
4 You are seen for who you are
5 Your needs are not a problem.
6 You are safe.
7 You will be taken care of.
8 You will never be betrayed.
9  Your  presence  matters.
She said that these words might strike  a cord or memory. I admit I didn't finish reading the blog as I wanted to either cry or laugh. I read them to my friend and he laughed.
I do not want to tell this to gain sympathy, because in its own way it taught me. Some good and a lot bad
Now I do not wish to offend any one but we are 68 & 70 years in age and trust me any child in those years never heard any thing like that.
For me personally it was my step mother  who gave me the most memories, or in my case nightmares My parents were divorced when I was 3 years old, My father remarried, very quickly to a 17 year old girl.Who said" You are rotten and bad several times a day. She told my brother and my self that she didn't need to be there to look after us, that she hated us and my brother was sent out side and I was sent to my room. The same conditions arose when ever company was in the home, I was told not to be forward and to go to my room as no one liked me We were advise that our father would be told about what terrible children we had been during that day, yet he never never asked us or for that matter punished us, that was up to our mother. I do not know when I started biting my nails but my fingers were always bloody as I pulled the nail off, as well as the skin all around the nail. my mother made me wear white gloves all the time, and yet I still was able to bite  my nails. I was 32 before I was able to over come that habit, and only because I had dentures.
I was sent to a doctor when I was 10 because I was so fat that my mother didn't want to be seen in public with me I remember this because I was given pure ephedrine and was higher than a kite for 2 years I was high but didn't ever loose the weight.
When I got married at 19 I asked my aunt to drive me to the church as I didn't want to ride with my Dad and Mom.
I will talk about my marriage latter, but all the negative input I received set me up for an even worse marriage.