taken from sparks page, for self esteem

Excellent words for struggle to loose weight


1. I am worth it because I deserve to feel healthy. 
2. I am worth it because I deserve to feel pretty. 
3. I am worth it because I deserve to not feel embarrassed when I walk into a room. 
4. I am worth it because I deserve to be surrounded by love and not negativity. 
5. I am worth it because I have spent my whole life feeling bad about myself and I will no longer accept that

second time but good reminder

Dalai Lama’s 18 rules for living 

At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living. 

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. 
   2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson. 
   3. Follow the three Rs: 
         1. Respect for self 
         2. Respect for others 
         3. Responsibility for all your actions. 
   4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 
   5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly. 
   6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship. 
   7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 
   8. Spend some time alone every day. 
   9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. 
  10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. 
  11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. 
  12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. 
  13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. 
  14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. 
  15. Be gentle with the earth. 
  16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. 
  17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 
  18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

True Friend

A true friend doesn’t just talk of caring about you. They walk, rhumba and salsa their talk. They’re there when you need ‘em―and even when you say you don’t need ‘em―but really kinda do.

A true friend always tells you the truth―including the stuff you haven’t been truthful about yourself. 

You feel safe to talk to them about serious things―or the most absolutely goofiest things. 

Plus you can sit in silence with them and still feel understood.

A true friend roots for blessing to happen for you―and they do what they can to be one of your blessings

Found this on face book thought it was worth saving

borrowed from Virginia Satir

Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.” 
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988

question my motives

This past few week I have called on Jim , my for help. We are becoming friends, which pleases me, But and there is a but, I find myself drifting back to when we were together, and most of the things I think about are the good times we had, and I admit I long for them again,
Jim on the other hand appears to have no interest in taking this friendship to a higher level, and I do not want to express my feelings as it may cause him to run,
to keep my feelings under control I make myself remember all the reasons why I asked him to leave, and there were many, but he seems to have learned his lesson as he appears quite attentive, and I admit I find this attractive. as well as the fact that he was a superb lover doesn't help. I have met many men over the past few months and when it come to crunch time I always tell them I am not interested as I want some one as good as Jim in bed, and they may have been, I just didn't feel like trying them out. God that sounds crass, and it feels that way. I have given up looking for some one, and if necessary I hope I can remain friends with Jim, but and there is a but he will start looking for some one else very shortly and I know this, I want to yell at him and tell he him he has the best person for him right in front of him, again I am afraid to even consider this, but I can't let it be like him and Rita, I can see that this is killing her very slowly as she can't get on with her life, , but perhaps she is like me , its Jim or nothing, possibly so. 

After surgery

Well I had my hip replacement surgery on Jan 27, and was back home Jan 30, At first things went well I was getting around well but this last week has been harsh, I think it is because I am on my own and the walls are crowding in. I have a friend down the hall that pops in for a moment every day but that is pretty much my interaction with people.
I can not imaging how for 20 years I lived this way, no friends and not very much of a life. I kept my head down and did my work and that was it.
Today I have come to understand that I dearly want a life, and as soon as possible I am going to join senior clubs and meet new people, just for the social aspect if nothing else.
Sort of has been a wake up call for me and I really intend to follow through with my ideas., I feel better now that I have put that to word

Pale blue dot, by Carl Sagen ( wonderful wisdom

Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every ‘superstar,’ every ‘supreme leader,’ every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there — on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.

Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.

It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.