It has been a bit difficult for the past few weeks. A friend of mine is going to have a triple bypass surgery tomorrow, and my thoughts are with her, but on the other hand she is the type of person who for at least the last 10 years has broken all the rules a diabetic can break, she seldom took her readings, ate what she wanted to and did take her insulin regularly,
Now every one in her family are gathering around her in a panic, and I know she is scared silly, and I truly feel for her.
When I went to see her I approached her on the fact that once she has recovered from her surgery we might do some walking together, It was at this time I saw something in her I had never seen before She started to pout like a small child. "I have made a lot of life style changes and every one wants me to do more" At that time the male nurse was telling her that if she was to recover she would need to take her blood readings 4 times a day, eat properly and start moving a lot more, she was furious and said I will do all that but at my own speed, meaning never. And once more began pouting.
I have learned a long time ago that I will not get upset over things I have no control over, and She is one thing I have no sway, nor options to assist.She is finally getting it that she is living on the very edge of life, if she hadn't passed out in public she may have never lived.
I have to admit that at first I was very angry with her, and that did not make sense to me until I thought it through, it wasn't her I was mad at it was myself as I am in control of me and I am just as bad at breaking the rules as she is I am caring 60 extra pounds and now am in the process of trying to get rid of it,
So on this Thanksgiving day I am thankful to my friend for giving me a wake up call, I truly hopes she has one to
Monday, October 8, 2012
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Friday, September 21, 2012
Borrowed from a blog written by Antiono Neves
As I walked around a massive casino dotted with people betting their money on slot machines, blackjack tables, and roulette wheels, I asked myself this question:
Would I bet on me? Would I bet on me doing all that’s required to accomplish my most important goals in life?
I realized for the bookies in Vegas my odds of success would be easy to determine. All they had to do was take a look at what I did yesterday, the day before that, last week, the month before, etc. Like a sports team, this is my track record.
The harsh reality is that just a few years ago, I wouldn’t have bet on me, let alone allowed anyone else to do so.money on something that wasn’t guaranteed.
But there I was recently in Las Vegas thinking about placing a bet.
As I walked around a massive casino dotted with people betting their money on slot machines, blackjack tables, and roulette wheels, I asked myself this question:
Would I bet on me? Would I bet on me doing all that’s required to accomplish my most important goals in life?
I realized for the bookies in Vegas my odds of success would be easy to determine. All they had to do was take a look at what I did yesterday, the day before that, last week, the month before, etc. Like a sports team, this is my track record.
The harsh reality is that just a few years ago, I wouldn’t have bet on me, let alone allowed anyone else to do so.
It’s not that I didn’t care—my resume would tell you otherwise—it’s just that for most of my life, I’ve gotten “good enough” results while not nearly giving my all.
I’ve held good enough jobs that I didn’t like. I’ve spent good enough time with family and friends. And I’ve been in good enough relationships that didn’t last.
I’ve always been great at accomplishing goals for others and the various companies I’ve worked for over the years—their goals. But accomplishing what was important to me was a different story.
The reality was that I didn’t know what it meant, or even how, to live intentionally. With purpose.
Over the years, I have let a lot of good opportunities pass me by. I missed deadlines. I skipped important meetings. I didn’t follow up on phone calls. I was great at making excuses.
Why? Frankly, I was afraid of showing up 100 percent. Afraid of giving my all. Afraid of the grit and commitment involved.
I mean, god forbid, I might finish something. Something might work out. I might realize that what I thought was important to me wasn’t important at all. I might spend time with people who made me better. I might, gasp, be happy!
It was only after I experienced a life-changing event that I decided to love and accept my past, put in behind me, and turn the page.
During this raw time, I realized that no one cared more about my goals than I did. That effort was between me and me. The fear of not giving my all shook me to the core.
From here, a shift occurred. I got curious about what would happen if I followed through. What would happen if I surrounded myself with people who made me better? What would happen if I approached each day intentionally? What would happen if I stayed committed and finished something?
After getting curious, I took action, and what happened was results.
Some of these results included self-publishing a book (Student Athlete 101: College Life Made Easy On & Off The Field) and producing a short television pilot on my own dime. No, the book hasn’t made me a millionaire and the networks passed on my show. Slowly but surely, though, I became addicted to finishing projects.
Then in 2011, and scores of finished projects later, I started my company in which I partner with young professionals and help them produce exceptional results in their careers. And you know what? Even with a steep learning curve, it’s going pretty good!
There’s no coincidence that the tag line of my company is, “Transform Potential Into Exceptional Performance.” Initially, that was for me. Now, it’s a call to action to empower others to do the same.
Now a question for you: Would you bet on you?
Would you bet on you doing all that’s required to accomplish your most important goals in life? Would you bet on you following through and staying committed? Would you bet on you taking that first step today?
It took me some time to learn, but until you’re willing to bet on you, it’s hard to get others to do the same.
Share in the comments section below why you would bet on you.
It’s not that I didn’t care—my resume would tell you otherwise—it’s just that for most of my life, I’ve gotten “good enough” results while not nearly giving my all.
I’ve held good enough jobs that I didn’t like. I’ve spent good enough time with family and friends. And I’ve been in good enough relationships that didn’t last.
I’ve always been great at accomplishing goals for others and the various companies I’ve worked for over the years—their goals. But accomplishing what was important to me was a different story.
The reality was that I didn’t know what it meant, or even how, to live intentionally. With purpose.
Over the years, I have let a lot of good opportunities pass me by. I missed deadlines. I skipped important meetings. I didn’t follow up on phone calls. I was great at making excuses.
Why? Frankly, I was afraid of showing up 100 percent. Afraid of giving my all. Afraid of the grit and commitment involved.
I mean, god forbid, I might finish something. Something might work out. I might realize that what I thought was important to me wasn’t important at all. I might spend time with people who made me better. I might, gasp, be happy!
It was only after I experienced a life-changing event that I decided to love and accept my past, put in behind me, and turn the page.
During this raw time, I realized that no one cared more about my goals than I did. That effort was between me and me. The fear of not giving my all shook me to the core.
From here, a shift occurred. I got curious about what would happen if I followed through. What would happen if I surrounded myself with people who made me better? What would happen if I approached each day intentionally? What would happen if I stayed committed and finished something?
After getting curious, I took action, and what happened was results.
Some of these results included self-publishing a book (Student Athlete 101: College Life Made Easy On & Off The Field) and producing a short television pilot on my own dime. No, the book hasn’t made me a millionaire and the networks passed on my show. Slowly but surely, though, I became addicted to finishing projects.
Then in 2011, and scores of finished projects later, I started my company in which I partner with young professionals and help them produce exceptional results in their careers. And you know what? Even with a steep learning curve, it’s going pretty good!
There’s no coincidence that the tag line of my company is, “Transform Potential Into Exceptional Performance.” Initially, that was for me. Now, it’s a call to action to empower others to do the same.
Now a question for you: Would you bet on you?
Would you bet on you doing all that’s required to accomplish your most important goals in life? Would you bet on you following through and staying committed? Would you bet on you taking that first step today?
It took me some time to learn, but until you’re willing to bet on you, it’s hard to get others to do the same.
Share in the comments section below why you would bet on you.
Friday, August 3, 2012
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS
Lately I have begun to question what my spiritual beliefs are. I have read a bit and find that I want to run further and further away from organised religion. I was baptized in the Anglican church, I was a young mother and thought that if I was going to have my children baptized I should be as well.. Even when I was taking the course the church held I had a lot of questions, and the answer always came back to have faith and just believe in what they were teaching me.I swallowed that but it put a burn in my gut, and has never been right since.
It is not that I don't believe in God, I do, but as a creator, and after that it is pretty much guess work. All that we know is what was written so many years ago but not near far back enough to actually have an actual real thing.
My feeling for the most part is that religions were created to control people, through fear, intimidation, and servitude. I can also understand why people might find comfort in organised religion, because we want answers.
Answers as to why?, how, who, and when?
With out some sort of answer, I think it would be helter skelter.
Personally I believe that for the most part people would be civilized, but then again maybe not, if there are no consequences for our actions. I am a true believer in take responsibility for your actions.
Just my thoughts for today
It is not that I don't believe in God, I do, but as a creator, and after that it is pretty much guess work. All that we know is what was written so many years ago but not near far back enough to actually have an actual real thing.
My feeling for the most part is that religions were created to control people, through fear, intimidation, and servitude. I can also understand why people might find comfort in organised religion, because we want answers.
Answers as to why?, how, who, and when?
With out some sort of answer, I think it would be helter skelter.
Personally I believe that for the most part people would be civilized, but then again maybe not, if there are no consequences for our actions. I am a true believer in take responsibility for your actions.
Just my thoughts for today
Thursday, May 3, 2012
taken from sparks page, for self esteem
Excellent words for struggle to loose weight
1. I am worth it because I deserve to feel healthy.
2. I am worth it because I deserve to feel pretty.
3. I am worth it because I deserve to not feel embarrassed when I walk into a room.
4. I am worth it because I deserve to be surrounded by love and not negativity.
5. I am worth it because I have spent my whole life feeling bad about myself and I will no longer accept that
1. I am worth it because I deserve to feel healthy.
2. I am worth it because I deserve to feel pretty.
3. I am worth it because I deserve to not feel embarrassed when I walk into a room.
4. I am worth it because I deserve to be surrounded by love and not negativity.
5. I am worth it because I have spent my whole life feeling bad about myself and I will no longer accept that
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
second time but good reminder
Dalai Lama’s 18 rules for living
At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living.
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs:
1. Respect for self
2. Respect for others
3. Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living.
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs:
1. Respect for self
2. Respect for others
3. Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
Monday, April 16, 2012
True Friend
A true friend doesn’t just talk of caring about you. They walk, rhumba and salsa their talk. They’re there when you need ‘em―and even when you say you don’t need ‘em―but really kinda do.
A true friend always tells you the truth―including the stuff you haven’t been truthful about yourself.
You feel safe to talk to them about serious things―or the most absolutely goofiest things.
Plus you can sit in silence with them and still feel understood.
A true friend roots for blessing to happen for you―and they do what they can to be one of your blessings
Found this on face book thought it was worth saving
Saturday, March 3, 2012
borrowed from Virginia Satir
Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..
“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988
Thursday, March 1, 2012
question my motives
This past few week I have called on Jim , my for help. We are becoming friends, which pleases me, But and there is a but, I find myself drifting back to when we were together, and most of the things I think about are the good times we had, and I admit I long for them again,
Jim on the other hand appears to have no interest in taking this friendship to a higher level, and I do not want to express my feelings as it may cause him to run,
to keep my feelings under control I make myself remember all the reasons why I asked him to leave, and there were many, but he seems to have learned his lesson as he appears quite attentive, and I admit I find this attractive. as well as the fact that he was a superb lover doesn't help. I have met many men over the past few months and when it come to crunch time I always tell them I am not interested as I want some one as good as Jim in bed, and they may have been, I just didn't feel like trying them out. God that sounds crass, and it feels that way. I have given up looking for some one, and if necessary I hope I can remain friends with Jim, but and there is a but he will start looking for some one else very shortly and I know this, I want to yell at him and tell he him he has the best person for him right in front of him, again I am afraid to even consider this, but I can't let it be like him and Rita, I can see that this is killing her very slowly as she can't get on with her life, , but perhaps she is like me , its Jim or nothing, possibly so.
Jim on the other hand appears to have no interest in taking this friendship to a higher level, and I do not want to express my feelings as it may cause him to run,
to keep my feelings under control I make myself remember all the reasons why I asked him to leave, and there were many, but he seems to have learned his lesson as he appears quite attentive, and I admit I find this attractive. as well as the fact that he was a superb lover doesn't help. I have met many men over the past few months and when it come to crunch time I always tell them I am not interested as I want some one as good as Jim in bed, and they may have been, I just didn't feel like trying them out. God that sounds crass, and it feels that way. I have given up looking for some one, and if necessary I hope I can remain friends with Jim, but and there is a but he will start looking for some one else very shortly and I know this, I want to yell at him and tell he him he has the best person for him right in front of him, again I am afraid to even consider this, but I can't let it be like him and Rita, I can see that this is killing her very slowly as she can't get on with her life, , but perhaps she is like me , its Jim or nothing, possibly so.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
After surgery
Well I had my hip replacement surgery on Jan 27, and was back home Jan 30, At first things went well I was getting around well but this last week has been harsh, I think it is because I am on my own and the walls are crowding in. I have a friend down the hall that pops in for a moment every day but that is pretty much my interaction with people.
I can not imaging how for 20 years I lived this way, no friends and not very much of a life. I kept my head down and did my work and that was it.
Today I have come to understand that I dearly want a life, and as soon as possible I am going to join senior clubs and meet new people, just for the social aspect if nothing else.
Sort of has been a wake up call for me and I really intend to follow through with my ideas., I feel better now that I have put that to word
I can not imaging how for 20 years I lived this way, no friends and not very much of a life. I kept my head down and did my work and that was it.
Today I have come to understand that I dearly want a life, and as soon as possible I am going to join senior clubs and meet new people, just for the social aspect if nothing else.
Sort of has been a wake up call for me and I really intend to follow through with my ideas., I feel better now that I have put that to word
Pale blue dot, by Carl Sagen ( wonderful wisdom
Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every ‘superstar,’ every ‘supreme leader,’ every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there — on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
starving for passion
For the past few months I can not stop eating, I have tried to diet and the more I try the more devastating the results.
This afternoon I realized I am not starving for food but rather passion, I want/need to be able to make love to some one and to have them make love to me.
When I was with Jim I learned that I was a very passionate and sensual person, And now I understand that I miss that part of my life dreadfully, I crave it, I want it and I need it,
but how to find it again? I can not settle for a one night stand, I want/need a man to have the same passion, desires, wants and needs that I have, not to sate each other but to start a fire that will burn for a very long time, sometimes as a banked fire and some times as a wild fire., to have the love and passion as fuel. This is what I want and have been denied. I now throw it out to the universe, . Is there a man who can pick up this challenge and make our dreams and desires come true, I believe it can happen. I BELIEVE.
This afternoon I realized I am not starving for food but rather passion, I want/need to be able to make love to some one and to have them make love to me.
When I was with Jim I learned that I was a very passionate and sensual person, And now I understand that I miss that part of my life dreadfully, I crave it, I want it and I need it,
but how to find it again? I can not settle for a one night stand, I want/need a man to have the same passion, desires, wants and needs that I have, not to sate each other but to start a fire that will burn for a very long time, sometimes as a banked fire and some times as a wild fire., to have the love and passion as fuel. This is what I want and have been denied. I now throw it out to the universe, . Is there a man who can pick up this challenge and make our dreams and desires come true, I believe it can happen. I BELIEVE.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
borrowed from T2T,Happy NEW yEAR 2012
met with criticism and believing in yourself means you'll have to consciously be aware of what you are doing at all times. When we take the beaten path and conform to average standards we become average thinkers, we make average choices and live average lifestyles. We are so much more than we give ourselves credit for, but it goes unnoticed because we do not believe in ourselves enough. When people say, “just be yourself” what they should be saying is “just believe in yourself” because it’s impossible to be yourself if you do not believe in yourself first…so…Believe in yourself…you are indeed capable.
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