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Thanks giving Day in Canada

It has been a bit difficult for the past few weeks. A friend of mine is going to have a triple bypass surgery tomorrow, and my thoughts are with her, but on the other hand she is the type of person who for at least the last 10 years has broken all the rules a diabetic can break, she seldom took her readings, ate what she wanted to and did take her insulin regularly,
Now every one in her family are gathering around her in a panic, and I know she is scared silly, and I truly feel for her.
When I went to see her I approached her on the fact that once she has recovered from her surgery we might do some walking  together, It was at this time I saw something in her I had never seen before She started to pout like a small child. "I have made a lot of life style changes and every one wants me to do more" At that time the male nurse was telling her that if she was to recover she would need to take her blood readings 4 times a day, eat properly and start moving a lot more, she was furious and said I will do all that but at my own speed, meaning never. And once more began pouting.
I have learned a long time ago that I will not get upset over things I have no control over, and She is one thing I have no sway, nor options to assist.She is finally getting it that she is living on the very edge of life, if she hadn't passed out in public she may have never lived.
I have to admit that at first I was very angry with her, and that did not make sense to me until I thought it through, it wasn't her I was mad at it was myself as I am in control of me and I am just as bad at breaking the rules as she is I am caring 60 extra pounds and now am in the process of trying to get rid of it,
So on this Thanksgiving day I am thankful to my friend for giving me a wake up call, I truly hopes she has one to

the new and old

Borrowed from a blog written by Antiono Neves

As I walked around a massive casino dotted with people betting their money on slot machines, blackjack tables, and roulette wheels, I asked myself this question:

Would I bet on me? Would I bet on me doing all that’s required to accomplish my most important goals in life?

I realized for the bookies in Vegas my odds of success would be easy to determine. All they had to do was take a look at what I did yesterday, the day before that, last week, the month before, etc. Like a sports team, this is my track record.

The harsh reality is that just a few years ago, I wouldn’t have bet on me, let alone allowed anyone else to do so.money on something that wasn’t guaranteed.

But there I was recently in Las Vegas thinking about placing a bet.

As I walked around a massive casino dotted with people betting their money on slot machines, blackjack tables, and roulette wheels, I asked myself this question:

Would I bet on me? Would I bet on me doing all that’s required to accomplish my most important goals in life?

I realized for the bookies in Vegas my odds of success would be easy to determine. All they had to do was take a look at what I did yesterday, the day before that, last week, the month before, etc. Like a sports team, this is my track record.

The harsh reality is that just a few years ago, I wouldn’t have bet on me, let alone allowed anyone else to do so.

It’s not that I didn’t care—my resume would tell you otherwise—it’s just that for most of my life, I’ve gotten “good enough” results while not nearly giving my all.

I’ve held good enough jobs that I didn’t like. I’ve spent good enough time with family and friends. And I’ve been in good enough relationships that didn’t last.

I’ve always been great at accomplishing goals for others and the various companies I’ve worked for over the years—their goals. But accomplishing what was important to me was a different story.

The reality was that I didn’t know what it meant, or even how, to live intentionally. With purpose.

Over the years, I have let a lot of good opportunities pass me by. I missed deadlines. I skipped important meetings. I didn’t follow up on phone calls. I was great at making excuses.

Why? Frankly, I was afraid of showing up 100 percent. Afraid of giving my all. Afraid of the grit and commitment involved.

I mean, god forbid, I might finish something. Something might work out. I might realize that what I thought was important to me wasn’t important at all. I might spend time with people who made me better. I might, gasp, be happy!

It was only after I experienced a life-changing event that I decided to love and accept my past, put in behind me, and turn the page.

During this raw time, I realized that no one cared more about my goals than I did. That effort was between me and me. The fear of not giving my all shook me to the core.

From here, a shift occurred. I got curious about what would happen if I followed through. What would happen if I surrounded myself with people who made me better? What would happen if I approached each day intentionally? What would happen if I stayed committed and finished something?

After getting curious, I took action, and what happened was results.

Some of these results included self-publishing a book (Student Athlete 101: College Life Made Easy On & Off The Field) and producing a short television pilot on my own dime. No, the book hasn’t made me a millionaire and the networks passed on my show. Slowly but surely, though, I became addicted to finishing projects.

Then in 2011, and scores of finished projects later, I started my company in which I partner with young professionals and help them produce exceptional results in their careers. And you know what? Even with a steep learning curve, it’s going pretty good!

There’s no coincidence that the tag line of my company is, “Transform Potential Into Exceptional Performance.” Initially, that was for me. Now, it’s a call to action to empower others to do the same.

Now a question for you: Would you bet on you?

Would you bet on you doing all that’s required to accomplish your most important goals in life? Would you bet on you following through and staying committed? Would you bet on you taking that first step today?

It took me some time to learn, but until you’re willing to bet on you, it’s hard to get others to do the same.

Share in the comments section below why you would bet on you.

It’s not that I didn’t care—my resume would tell you otherwise—it’s just that for most of my life, I’ve gotten “good enough” results while not nearly giving my all.

I’ve held good enough jobs that I didn’t like. I’ve spent good enough time with family and friends. And I’ve been in good enough relationships that didn’t last.

I’ve always been great at accomplishing goals for others and the various companies I’ve worked for over the years—their goals. But accomplishing what was important to me was a different story.

The reality was that I didn’t know what it meant, or even how, to live intentionally. With purpose.

Over the years, I have let a lot of good opportunities pass me by. I missed deadlines. I skipped important meetings. I didn’t follow up on phone calls. I was great at making excuses.

Why? Frankly, I was afraid of showing up 100 percent. Afraid of giving my all. Afraid of the grit and commitment involved.

I mean, god forbid, I might finish something. Something might work out. I might realize that what I thought was important to me wasn’t important at all. I might spend time with people who made me better. I might, gasp, be happy!

It was only after I experienced a life-changing event that I decided to love and accept my past, put in behind me, and turn the page.

During this raw time, I realized that no one cared more about my goals than I did. That effort was between me and me. The fear of not giving my all shook me to the core.

From here, a shift occurred. I got curious about what would happen if I followed through. What would happen if I surrounded myself with people who made me better? What would happen if I approached each day intentionally? What would happen if I stayed committed and finished something?

After getting curious, I took action, and what happened was results.

Some of these results included self-publishing a book (Student Athlete 101: College Life Made Easy On & Off The Field) and producing a short television pilot on my own dime. No, the book hasn’t made me a millionaire and the networks passed on my show. Slowly but surely, though, I became addicted to finishing projects.

Then in 2011, and scores of finished projects later, I started my company in which I partner with young professionals and help them produce exceptional results in their careers. And you know what? Even with a steep learning curve, it’s going pretty good!

There’s no coincidence that the tag line of my company is, “Transform Potential Into Exceptional Performance.” Initially, that was for me. Now, it’s a call to action to empower others to do the same.

Now a question for you: Would you bet on you?

Would you bet on you doing all that’s required to accomplish your most important goals in life? Would you bet on you following through and staying committed? Would you bet on you taking that first step today?

It took me some time to learn, but until you’re willing to bet on you, it’s hard to get others to do the same.

Share in the comments section below why you would bet on you.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS

Lately I have begun to question what my spiritual beliefs are. I have read a bit and find that I want to run further and further away from organised religion. I was baptized in the Anglican church, I was a young mother and thought that if I was going to have my children baptized I should be as well.. Even when I was taking the course the church held I had a lot of questions, and the answer always came back to have faith and just believe in what they were teaching me.I swallowed that but it put a burn in my gut, and has never been right since.
It is not that I don't believe in God, I do, but as a creator, and after that it is pretty much guess work. All that we know is what was written so many years ago but not near far back enough to actually have an actual real thing.
My feeling for the most part is that religions were created to control people, through fear, intimidation, and servitude. I can also understand why people might find comfort in organised religion, because we want answers.
Answers as to why?, how, who, and when?
With out some sort of answer, I think it would be helter skelter.
Personally I believe that for the most part people would be civilized, but then again maybe not, if there are no consequences for our actions. I am a true believer in take responsibility for your actions.
Just my thoughts for today