I know it takes me a few time to get something right. Particularly when it involves Jim. I believed I was very angry with him and just couldn't let it go. Then I had my ah-ha moment it wasn't Jim I was angry with it was at myself for falling for his same old BS.
I had somehow convinced myself that he had changed. Of course, he hadn't. All I had to do was remember him talking about his childhood and how he took off and left his sisters to do whatever he was supposed to do. They covered his butt because he was always playing hooky from school and didn't do what he was supposed to do. He found out that they would do almost anything to keep him from getting a beating. Talk about "spare the rod and spoil the child ".
I honestly believe he has spent his life finding women and manipulating them to take care of him.
With that knowledge gained I believe I will not fall for this "Oh poor me" routine.
And I can honestly say I am really happy I figured this out, I hated being angry and resentful all the time.
So good on for me, and I hope I remember this because he will return. He always does