borrowed from Virginia Satir

Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.” 
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988

question my motives

This past few week I have called on Jim , my for help. We are becoming friends, which pleases me, But and there is a but, I find myself drifting back to when we were together, and most of the things I think about are the good times we had, and I admit I long for them again,
Jim on the other hand appears to have no interest in taking this friendship to a higher level, and I do not want to express my feelings as it may cause him to run,
to keep my feelings under control I make myself remember all the reasons why I asked him to leave, and there were many, but he seems to have learned his lesson as he appears quite attentive, and I admit I find this attractive. as well as the fact that he was a superb lover doesn't help. I have met many men over the past few months and when it come to crunch time I always tell them I am not interested as I want some one as good as Jim in bed, and they may have been, I just didn't feel like trying them out. God that sounds crass, and it feels that way. I have given up looking for some one, and if necessary I hope I can remain friends with Jim, but and there is a but he will start looking for some one else very shortly and I know this, I want to yell at him and tell he him he has the best person for him right in front of him, again I am afraid to even consider this, but I can't let it be like him and Rita, I can see that this is killing her very slowly as she can't get on with her life, , but perhaps she is like me , its Jim or nothing, possibly so.